tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-294794766428738036.post8191412218315146315..comments2024-02-18T00:50:21.175-08:00Comments on Birth Unplugged: Elective Cesareans as Commentary on a Failed Birth ModelBrittanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00621569580858604541noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-294794766428738036.post-17116864456061612532011-09-10T10:10:26.612-07:002011-09-10T10:10:26.612-07:00You don't have to think VB is dehumanizing or ...You don't have to think VB is dehumanizing or rape like to prefer the risks and recovery from a surgery to the risks and recovery from a VB. Sure, VB can go well, but when it doesn't, it can be very damaging (NCB or not, it happens). Personally, I would trade a belly scar and ab pain for vaginal pain and possible damage anyway. This doesn't mean we see "modern" VB as horrible, or anything else, just that when looking at all the ways to birth, we prefer one to the other. <br /><br />This is because many Moms, including myself, see the actual arrival of our child as the life changing event- the act of becoming a parent, welcoming a new member of the family and enlarging our hearts with another human to love. How the baby gets out/into the family is irrelevant. I dont have to push a baby out my vagina to be a Mom! Focusing on a biological act to make a woman/Mom is also the very antithesis of feminism. <br /><br />By focusing on VB as a "rite of passage", instead of the actual arrival of the baby (or child, in adoption) you cause a lot of hurt to Moms who didn't VB. This is not necessary, as women have enough to deal with without creating a distinction between Vb and CS, adoption, surrogacy as a way to parent.RSMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06263889292593663372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-294794766428738036.post-28876597291538136832010-11-03T20:28:14.520-07:002010-11-03T20:28:14.520-07:00Another excellent post! I tend to forget that oth...Another excellent post! I tend to forget that other women who have not had the joyful experience of respectful, loving care during childbirth view vaginal and natural birth from a completely different perspective. I agree that the mommy wars really are about miscommunication most of the time.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15306169831564047769noreply@blogger.com